Books

Can't Stop Thinking

Are you stuck inside your own head? Learn how to stop obsessing and start really living with this breakthrough guide.

In today’s world, it’s easy to get stuck in an endless loop of negative thoughts. And if you’re like many people, you’ve probably tried to think your way out of one of these thought cycles, throwing more thoughts on the pile until you’re left with an out-of-control bonfire of anxiety, self-criticism, resentment, catastrophizing, and hopelessness. Attempting to stop your thoughts or replace them with positive ones is like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Inevitably, you drown in a sea of unhappiness. Has it ever worked for you? If the answer is “no,” it’s probably time to find a real solution. 

In Can’t Stop Thinking, psychotherapist and spiritual counselor Nancy Colier offers the key to breaking free from the repetitive and obsessive thinking that is causing your stress, anxiety, worry, and unhappiness: change your relationship with your thoughts. Using a powerful blend of mindfulness and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), you’ll learn how to surrender your thinking mind, and end repetitive thinking, rumination, and self-criticism—freeing you up to discover a life of self-compassion, presence, peace, and joy.

Effective mindfulness practices for transforming your relationship with technology and reconnecting with your real life

Our reliance on technology is rapidly changing how each of us experiences life. We’re facing new issues and difficulties, we’re encountering new emotional triggers, and we’re relating to each other in new ways. As Dr. Nancy Colier writes, “How we spend our time, what motivates us, and what we want are all are on a radical course of transformation.” The promise of technology is that it will make our lives easier; yet to realize that promise, we cannot be passive users―we must bring awareness and mindfulness to our relationships with our devices.

To “invite a monkey to tea” is to befriend our own mind-which is often compared to a drunken monkey for all its mad twists and turns. A wild monkey is full of irrepressible desires, and thus chases its own tail in its search for happiness! This book is about learning to welcome the mind as ally without fear or resistance, thus relaxing that frantic search and resting in the joy of who we already are. As a psychotherapist, author Nancy Colier has accompanied hundreds of people in their “search for happiness” for nearly two decades. She has watched her clients try everything under the sun to be-and stay-happy. Witnessing and participating in this process, she has become an expert in happiness, or more specifically, in the monkey-mind’s search and demand for it, and the unhappiness that all the striving ultimately creates. Along the way, the author has come to understand the workings of the mind-both from her clients and by her own diligent practice of meditation and self-observation. This book distills the wisdom and experience of her dedicated work, and offers readers a roadmap of the territory of mind, plus a toolbox of practical means for identifying and working gently with the unrealistic expectations that keep us from the enjoyment of who we are.

The primary obstacle to successful performance of any kind is our own mind. In a clear and compassionate style, Colier shows us how to understand and overcome the psychological barriers that keep us from achieving our full potential. The book demonstrates how to radically change our relationship with negative thoughts, move beyond comparison, self-doubt, and jealousy, and stop chasing a perfect and unattainable future and start living the moment that’s here now. Colier presents an “inside-out” approach, and ultimately, teaches us how to build a a strong and reliable core self, from which all performance is born. She offers a ground-breaking new approach to performance, competition, and life.