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What is Forgiveness, Really? When “Letting it Go” and “Burying the Hatchet” Fail…What Works?

What is forgiveness and how does it happen?  We talk so much about forgiveness, throw around so many slogans, and yet it seems that we all have radically different ideas about what it actually means. We want to know how to forgive … Continue reading

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When We Can No Longer Silence Our Truth

This week something remarkable happened—change happened. When a long-present way of feeling or behaving transforms, I view it as a miracle, a gift of grace. Two months ago, a dear friend, someone I consider family, asked to borrow money.  I’m working … Continue reading

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When Feeling Guilty is Your Natural State

Do you ever feel like you’re inclined to accept the blame when things go wrong?  The truth is, some of us are more prone to feeling guilty, as if a background sense of guilt is just wired into our system.  Even if we don’t … Continue reading

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How Long Should You Wait For Your Partner to Commit?

Commitment is a topic that brings a lot of couples into therapy. The word has a single definition, but it holds infinite meanings. For many people, commitment includes an emotional acknowledgment of a we, in that we are with each other and choose to be part of a couple. And … Continue reading

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Can a Relationship Recover From Resentment? How to Clear Out Resentment and Rediscover Empathy

As a relationship therapist, I am often asked “What’s the biggest problem couples face?”  The easy answers are money and sex, but neither would be exactly true or at least not what has walked into my office or my life.  … Continue reading

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