Comments on: The Invisible Mom: If You Feel Unappreciated as a Mom, You’re Not Alone

By: Nancy Colier

Nancy Colier — Tue, 04 Feb 2025 16:32:35 +0000

In reply to Nj. OUCH. raising children is a painful process, not just a joyful one. it is remarkable how deeply their words can wound, and what your daughter said was unkind. that's not okay. it's important to give bc you want to give and not so as to receive appreciation and yet... it is reasonable to expect kind treatment and some kind of acknowledgment of your efforts. i also think it's fair and reasonable to mention to your daughter how her words affected you, that they were unkind, and that you wish she could be a little more appreciative of your efforts. just a thought... sending strength and kindness for you, nancy colier

By: Nj

Nj — Tue, 04 Feb 2025 15:57:11 +0000

Hi Nancy,
I am mother of two daughters. I stumbled upon your article today as I was looking for a solution for not being appreciated. Today my older one said “I am not going to listen to you, you don’t even have a job”. It hit me so hard, that I waited for the kids to go to school and started crying. I do everything for these kids, I guess I shouldn’t do this much. Do kids appreciate moms more when they work outside of the home? Is the worth of person measured by what they earn. I left the job because I thought I am lucky enough to be able to stay home and take care of the kids. I guess not!

By: nancy colier

nancy colier — Sun, 08 Dec 2024 17:05:28 +0000

In reply to Jody petersen. thanks for this jody. i don't know his work but will absolutely take a look! warmest, nancy

By: Nancy Colier

Nancy Colier — Wed, 04 Dec 2024 14:14:51 +0000

In reply to Alex Schmid. Hi Alex, Absolutely, dads feels invisible too. It's the same feeling, regardless of gender. Raising kids without a spouse to have adult conversations with is incredibly difficult. I am wondering if there are other single dads you know or might find, that could provide conversation and a support system for you; we need that when we're doing the heavy lifting of child rearing! Know too that the old shoes will feel new again at some point. This too shall pass...this too shall pass. Warmest, Nancy

By: Alex Schmid

Alex Schmid — Wed, 04 Dec 2024 14:02:02 +0000

I am a single father (coparent technically), but I do all the things and inserting dad for mom in this post I can relate. Additionally, I don’t have the support of a spouse to even have the adult conversations with. I feel like the old shoe now that my girls are 11 and 12.

By: Meka

Meka — Tue, 05 Nov 2024 16:31:58 +0000

Same Jessica!!! I know this will pass and I understand my body is going through pre-monopause and that tends to make things worse. My emotions seem all over the place too.

By: Nancy Colier

Nancy Colier — Sat, 05 Oct 2024 10:41:32 +0000

In reply to Jessica metz. I am sending you strength and support. You are absolutely not alone, and, this too shall pass. Hang in there. Warmest, Nancy

By: Jessica metz

Jessica metz — Sat, 05 Oct 2024 01:42:47 +0000

I am sitting here reading this in tears as a mom at this very moment feeling overwhelmed and under appreciated thank you for your help and knowing it’s a normal feeling

By: Jody petersen

Jody petersen — Thu, 02 Aug 2018 04:17:43 +0000

Its been a long time since I had all these responsibilities but In reading this I was stunningly lead to re read John Rosemonds advice to parents. So very timely and spot on for all generations. Hopefully many of you will go straight there..