Comments on: What to Do About the People Who Blame You for Everything https://nancycolier.com/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/ Psychotherapist, Author, Interfaith Minister & Thought Leader Tue, 03 May 2022 21:08:08 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.1 By: Sincerely Confused https://nancycolier.com/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-113 Tue, 03 May 2022 21:08:08 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/12/31/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-113 Which is it:

A. The first thing to do when someone we care about blames or criticizes us is to examine our own behavior.

B. Perhaps most damaging…is the belief that we must be partially responsible for the abuse. The idea that it takes two to tango keeps us sucking up abuse…

I told myself “A” for a long time, so others told me I need to switch my thinking to “B”. So I started saying “B” and now others tell me I need to switch my thinking to “A”.

I’m coming here to figure it out. But I’m totally confused. Should I “believe my truth” or should I tell myself “Because Our Thoughts Make Sense Doesn’t Mean They’re True”.

Sincerely Confused

]]> By: Nancy Colier https://nancycolier.com/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-112 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 13:28:24 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/12/31/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-112 In reply to Samuil Buschkin.

Dear Samuil,
I am so glad that the work resonates and is helping you to heal. Let me know if I can be of help in any other way.
Warmest,
Nancy Colier
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]]> By: Samuil Buschkin https://nancycolier.com/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-111 Fri, 25 Mar 2016 19:18:17 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/12/31/what-to-do-about-the-people-who-blame-you-for-everything/#comment-111 Just got out of a 17-yr relationship with a blamer.
Your blog post was like medicine to me – it was 100% on point, in line with my experience, recurring questions, self-analysis, and emotional ordeal.

Thank you for the insight / validation!

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