Comments on: Why We Hold Grudges and How to Let Them Go: It’s Not About the Person Who Wronged You, It’s About Who You Want to Be https://nancycolier.com/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/ Psychotherapist, Author, Interfaith Minister & Thought Leader Fri, 23 Mar 2018 17:08:55 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.3 By: Nancy Colier https://nancycolier.com/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-109 Fri, 23 Mar 2018 17:08:55 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/08/05/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-109 In reply to Linda.

I hear how hard it is! I’m wondering if you are interested in shifting your lack of acceptance? Or, if it’s possible for you and your sibling to have a relationship in the midst of the disagreement? If you would like to set up a session to talk it through, it might help. Sometimes we need outside help to figure these things out. You can reach me through my website: nancycolier.com. In the meantime, I’m sending support and strength.
Warmest,
Nancy

]]> By: Linda https://nancycolier.com/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-108 Fri, 23 Mar 2018 16:40:24 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/08/05/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-108 In reply to Nancy Colier.

I am at a point where I am almost ready to give up! Mainly because I do not even know what to ask because I do not know how. That should give you an idea of the state of confusion, fueled by compassion and concern for an older sibling. Very simply stated we have an all-encompassing disagreement about a particular religion and my lack of acceptance. Is there any general advice you could share with me to at least attempt to resolve the lack of communication between the two of us. If not, believe me, I understand. Thank you, Still hoping.

]]> By: Nancy Colier https://nancycolier.com/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-107 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 13:26:02 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/08/05/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-107 In reply to Steve.

Dear Steve,
I am so glad that you are finding the compassion you need. It is, at the end of all of it, the key ingredient in healing. Let me know if I can be of help in any other way.
Sending support and strength,
Nancy

]]> By: Steve https://nancycolier.com/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-106 Thu, 25 May 2017 09:09:29 +0000 https://nancycolier.com/2015/08/05/why-we-hold-grudges-and-how-to-let-them-go-its-not-about-the-person-who-wronged-you-its-about-who-you-want-to-be/#comment-106 Hi Nancy – I want to thank you for your article – I found it in a time of great need and it is slowly teaching me to find the compassion I need to move on. I try and read it every day and each time I seem to learn a little more from it. Thank you. Steve

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