How Thoughts Get in the Way of Being Present
If just one word were to go in a time capsule to represent our society right now, the word would have to be “mindfulness.” Mindfulness is in every book title, workshop, conversation, idea, and everything else we now encounter. We’re a society obsessed with mindfulness. So what is this thing we’re all talking about and presumably trying to create? And […]
When We Shame Ourselves: How to Unhook from Self-Shaming Thoughts
For many (dare I say most) people, spending time with parents can unleash some pretty strong emotions. No matter how grown up we are, our original family can put us in touch with deep hurts, primal longings, unmet needs… a tsunami of feelings. If we want to challenge every ounce of peace, wellbeing, compassion, wisdom and strength […]
The One Decision That Will Radically Improve Your Family Life
If you’re a mom then I’m certain you know the experience of telling your child to do something and getting no response, and then telling your child to do it again and getting no response, and then telling your child once again and getting no response, and then becoming frustrated and possibly raising your voice, and […]
How to Live Peacefully with Repetitive Negative Thoughts
Do you have repetitive negative thoughts? If so, the diagnosis is confirmed: You’re human. The Laboratory of Neuro-Imaging reports that the average person experiences 70,000 thoughts per day. As a psychotherapist, I can say with certainty that a large percentage of the 70,000 are about what can go wrong, what did go wrong, what will go wrong, what […]
Why You Should Stop Asking Google What to Do With Your Life
At the last minute my afternoon meeting was cancelled. And so, unexpectedly, I was presented with a substantial chunk of unscheduled time, five hours of open, unfilled space with which I could do whatever I wanted. I immediately flipped open my laptop and started researching. Researching what? Everything, anything, something that would interest me, something to […]
Fire it Up with CJ Liu and Nancy Colier
CJ interviews Nancy Colier on her book “The Power of Off”. Why is spacious and quiet so important? How do technology distractions keep us from experirencing oursleves? What critical aspects of ourselves do we lose when we opt for ease of technology? What are 6 markers of any addiction?
The Resident: Resolution 2017: A New (Balanced) Relationship with Technology
Find freedom in your relationship with technology. New year, new you! The most important thing is to remember the most important thing. What makes for a meaningful life? What do we really need and want? Is our Smartphone the answer that will bring lasting happiness? As a psychotherapist and… Read more: http://resident.com/resident-magazine-january-2017/
Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone?
Ah, the smartphone. You sneak a peek at the Thanksgiving table. Your significant other is emailing during the Sunday sermon. Your teen-aged daughter — who barely talks at all anymore — is awake and online with her friends most of the night. Your dog is texting you from the foot of your bed. OK, maybe […]
The Neuroscience of… Everything
Is there anything one can read these days that isn’t about neruoscience? Could there be anything left to scan in the MRI tube? Those parts of life that used to be considered emotional, experiential, sensorial, or just plain mysterious are now being figured out and cerebral-ized by brain scientists. Neuroscience claims to have cracked the code on love, romance, sexuality, homosexuality, attachment, creativity, courage, happiness, grief, conscience, intuition, morality, appetite, […]
How to Heal Defensiveness in Close Relationships
Most of us are defensive in close relationships. If we’re not, we have to interact with people who are. It is the relational disease of our culture and the one that imprisons and destroys intimacy, and prevents love and connection between partners and friends. Why are we so defensive and what are we so afraid of? And… […]