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Self-Care: When You Need More Than a Trip to the Spa
When we reach our forties and fifties, many women go through a powerful and profound change
An Ode to Feeling Uncomfortable
It seems that we’re no longer willing or able to tolerate feeling uncomfortable. And furthermore, we’ve
The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Long-Term Partner
When we think of virtues, we usually think of the classics: wisdom, compassion, humility, patience, fortitude, courage,
You Have Permission to Like Yourself
Is there someone in your life who frequently critiques you and often points out what you’re
When You Use Food to Check Out on Feelings
Most of us have heard the term “freshman 15,” referring to the 15 pounds many college
Teen Suicide Rates Are Rising: How to Help Our Kids
Parenting teens in a difficult world requires listening and watching closely. The Centers for Disease
How Did I End Up as the Default Parent?
Whose life gets canceled when the kids need help? KEY POINTS When a child needs
Why Chasing a Better Past Chases Away Your Life Now
A Personal Perspective: Letting go of your past is the beginning of possibility. I’ve been
When Jealousy Is More Than Just Jealousy
Assigning meaning to your partner’s behavior can get you into trouble. Ann was sobbing because
Anxious About Returning to Family Gatherings? Be Prepared.
Seeing family again, in person, can be triggering. How to emotionally prepare. Over the coming
The More We Make Room for What Hurts, the Better We Feel
This past weekend I witnessed an event that was both utterly simple and utterly profound, an
How to Relax When You Don’t Have the Answers
The first time it was suggested to me that I stop trying to think up a
Putting the Brakes on Overthinking
I talk and write a lot about why we overthink and ruminate so much, and keep
When COVID Threatens to Break Up Your Relationship
The pandemic has massively disrupted normal life, creating conflict and suffering in innumerable ways. This much
How to Relax When You Don’t Have the Answers
The first time it was suggested to me that I stop trying to think up a
Has the Pandemic Changed Your Desire to Socialize?
So much in our lives has changed over the last 18 months. The way we work,
Harmony in Relationship Does Not Require Agreement
James and Anna came to see me because of a big fight they were embroiled in.
Do You Have the Courage to Be a Good Friend?
Have you ever told a friend about a deeply upsetting experience and then had the friend tell
How We, as Women, Give Away Our Power
Gwen was a working comedian when I first met her. She wasn’t famous yet, but it
Why We Can’t Stop Thinking About the Same Problems
Have you ever noticed how frequently your mind returns to problems and situations that cause
You Go, Girl: Growing Up On Cotton Candy Cliches
My babysitter gave my 10-year-old daughter a scrapbook. The sparkly pink binder was filled with adorable
What If We Acted a Little Kinder Than We Felt, or Thought?
A feeling of joy and relief has arrived for many people in this country. After four
Are You A People-Pleaser at Your Own Expense?
Petra was furious when she woke up in the morning—furious at herself. The previous evening, she
Surviving 2020, One Panic Attack at a Time
Wow, 2020! Our year of anxiety. Many of us are walking around with a sense of
Are You Having a Conversation or Seeking Validation?
Basic truth: When conversing with other human beings, most of us are inclined to offer an uh-huh, hmmm or head
Must We Always Be Striving For A Better Life?
Switching from the five-year plan to the right now plan… The workshop started with a simple
Why It’s So Hard to Be (Fully) Honest With Your Partner
Jill and her husband had attended a friend’s party, and Jill came home upset. Her husband’s
We Weren’t Always As Good As We Are Now, So What?
Why there’s no shame in crawling before we walk. There’s something profoundly disturbing going on in
Preparing Your Partner to Listen: The Simple Change in Behavior That Can Radically Change Your Relationship
Ava wanted to tell her husband about a troubling and upsetting argument she’d had with her
Freeing Yourself From Your Partner’s Behavior
I recently wrote an article about a client who enjoys her marriage and who also struggles with her