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What If We Acted a Little Kinder Than We Felt, or Thought?
A feeling of joy and relief has arrived for many people in this country. After four
Are You A People-Pleaser at Your Own Expense?
Petra was furious when she woke up in the morning—furious at herself. The previous evening, she
Surviving 2020, One Panic Attack at a Time
Wow, 2020! Our year of anxiety. Many of us are walking around with a sense of
Are You Having a Conversation or Seeking Validation?
Basic truth: When conversing with other human beings, most of us are inclined to offer an uh-huh, hmmm or head
Must We Always Be Striving For A Better Life?
Switching from the five-year plan to the right now plan… The workshop started with a simple
Why It’s So Hard to Be (Fully) Honest With Your Partner
Jill and her husband had attended a friend’s party, and Jill came home upset. Her husband’s
We Weren’t Always As Good As We Are Now, So What?
Why there’s no shame in crawling before we walk. There’s something profoundly disturbing going on in
Preparing Your Partner to Listen: The Simple Change in Behavior That Can Radically Change Your Relationship
Ava wanted to tell her husband about a troubling and upsetting argument she’d had with her
Freeing Yourself From Your Partner’s Behavior
I recently wrote an article about a client who enjoys her marriage and who also struggles with her
Keeping Your Life Simple, Even After the Pandemic is Over
Are you starting to feel anxious about the world opening up, about possibilities becoming possible again? We’re not there yet, but are
The Harder Life Gets the Softer We Need to Be
When life gets hard and things go wrong, the most counterintuitive and seemingly impossible choice is to relax,
When Your Relationship Is Not What You Think It “Should” Be
There comes a time in every relationship when you realize that something you think you need
Rushing to Be Okay Before You Are Okay
From the time we’re young, we’re taught to find the silver lining in every cloud, to
Hitting the Pandemic Wall
How to keep going when you’re depleted and there’s no finish line in sight. As a
Just Because It’s Family Doesn’t Mean It Isn’t Toxic
We are buried in “shoulds” when it comes to what we’re supposed to do with family
How “Should” You Do a Pandemic? Are You Falling Short?
It’s remarkable, but the feeling “I’m not doing enough” can survive and thrive even in a
Parenting in a Pandemic: Staying Calm Because We Have to
So, we’ve baked 1,002 brownies, made 76 LEGO castles, played 43 rounds of UNO, read seven chapters
Within Every Crisis, A Profound Opportunity Appears
In times of fear, we return to the simple joys, and to each other. Yesterday, with
Have You Turned Your Partner Into the Villain in Your Inner Movie?
Married for 12 years, Lisa and Cliff were enjoying a fun date night out. Back at home,
What Do You Want in a Relationship? A Partner or Parent?
What happens when we realize our partner is not the parent we wished for? If we’re
Why Our Expectations of Marriage Must Change: A Lasting Marriage Means Learning to Live With Broken Promises
When we get married, we make all sorts of promises. The marriage contract, by its very nature, is
Why Trying to Be Understood Is So Exhausting: Rethinking our Response to Daily Hurts.
Kim came downstairs for breakfast that morning only to find the coffeemaker full of old coffee. Yesterday’s brew sat
Why It’s So Hard to Build Healthy Relationships After Growing Up in Chaos
When we grow up in emotionally chaotic households, we face challenges in establishing healthy adult relationships.
Are Your Thoughts True? Do You Even Believe Them?
I was recently taking a walk with my closest friend, hand in hand, enjoying each other’s company
Are Healthy Relationships Possible After Growing Up in Emotional Chaos?
When we grow up in emotionally chaotic households, we face challenges in establishing healthy adult relationships.
Parenting 101: Love Is In the Details
Pam was crying tears of happiness and relief, but also sadness. The man she’d been dating for six months
Freedom: Taking Ownership of Your Own Happiness
“Lily doesn’t listen,” had been Shelly’s refrain about her partner for years. She had complained many times
How to Make Every Day Matter
“Oh! It’s today. My favorite day,” Winnie the Pooh once said. 29,200 days. That’s how many days
Is Your Relationship Evolving or Devolving?
Viv, a composite client, has been married for 25 years. For the past 10 years, she and her husband
When It’s Always Someone Else’s Fault
Bill came to see me because his wife “never takes ownership of her own behavior.” Bill
What If We Acted a Little Kinder Than We Felt, or Thought?
A feeling of joy and relief has arrived for many people in this country. After four
Are You A People-Pleaser at Your Own Expense?
Petra was furious when she woke up in the morning—furious at herself. The previous evening, she
Surviving 2020, One Panic Attack at a Time
Wow, 2020! Our year of anxiety. Many of us are walking around with a sense of
Are You Having a Conversation or Seeking Validation?
Basic truth: When conversing with other human beings, most of us are inclined to offer an uh-huh, hmmm or head
Must We Always Be Striving For A Better Life?
Switching from the five-year plan to the right now plan… The workshop started with a simple
Why It’s So Hard to Be (Fully) Honest With Your Partner
Jill and her husband had attended a friend’s party, and Jill came home upset. Her husband’s
We Weren’t Always As Good As We Are Now, So What?
Why there’s no shame in crawling before we walk. There’s something profoundly disturbing going on in
Preparing Your Partner to Listen: The Simple Change in Behavior That Can Radically Change Your Relationship
Ava wanted to tell her husband about a troubling and upsetting argument she’d had with her
Freeing Yourself From Your Partner’s Behavior
I recently wrote an article about a client who enjoys her marriage and who also struggles with her
Keeping Your Life Simple, Even After the Pandemic is Over
Are you starting to feel anxious about the world opening up, about possibilities becoming possible again? We’re not there yet, but are
The Harder Life Gets the Softer We Need to Be
When life gets hard and things go wrong, the most counterintuitive and seemingly impossible choice is to relax,
When Your Relationship Is Not What You Think It “Should” Be
There comes a time in every relationship when you realize that something you think you need
Rushing to Be Okay Before You Are Okay
From the time we’re young, we’re taught to find the silver lining in every cloud, to
Hitting the Pandemic Wall
How to keep going when you’re depleted and there’s no finish line in sight. As a
Just Because It’s Family Doesn’t Mean It Isn’t Toxic
We are buried in “shoulds” when it comes to what we’re supposed to do with family
How “Should” You Do a Pandemic? Are You Falling Short?
It’s remarkable, but the feeling “I’m not doing enough” can survive and thrive even in a
Parenting in a Pandemic: Staying Calm Because We Have to
So, we’ve baked 1,002 brownies, made 76 LEGO castles, played 43 rounds of UNO, read seven chapters
Within Every Crisis, A Profound Opportunity Appears
In times of fear, we return to the simple joys, and to each other. Yesterday, with
Have You Turned Your Partner Into the Villain in Your Inner Movie?
Married for 12 years, Lisa and Cliff were enjoying a fun date night out. Back at home,
What Do You Want in a Relationship? A Partner or Parent?
What happens when we realize our partner is not the parent we wished for? If we’re
Why Our Expectations of Marriage Must Change: A Lasting Marriage Means Learning to Live With Broken Promises
When we get married, we make all sorts of promises. The marriage contract, by its very nature, is
Why Trying to Be Understood Is So Exhausting: Rethinking our Response to Daily Hurts.
Kim came downstairs for breakfast that morning only to find the coffeemaker full of old coffee. Yesterday’s brew sat
Why It’s So Hard to Build Healthy Relationships After Growing Up in Chaos
When we grow up in emotionally chaotic households, we face challenges in establishing healthy adult relationships.
Are Your Thoughts True? Do You Even Believe Them?
I was recently taking a walk with my closest friend, hand in hand, enjoying each other’s company
Are Healthy Relationships Possible After Growing Up in Emotional Chaos?
When we grow up in emotionally chaotic households, we face challenges in establishing healthy adult relationships.
Parenting 101: Love Is In the Details
Pam was crying tears of happiness and relief, but also sadness. The man she’d been dating for six months
Freedom: Taking Ownership of Your Own Happiness
“Lily doesn’t listen,” had been Shelly’s refrain about her partner for years. She had complained many times
How to Make Every Day Matter
“Oh! It’s today. My favorite day,” Winnie the Pooh once said. 29,200 days. That’s how many days
Is Your Relationship Evolving or Devolving?
Viv, a composite client, has been married for 25 years. For the past 10 years, she and her husband
When It’s Always Someone Else’s Fault
Bill came to see me because his wife “never takes ownership of her own behavior.” Bill