How Long Should You Wait For Your Partner to Commit?
Commitment is a topic that brings a lot of couples into therapy. The word has a single definition, but it holds infinite meanings. For many people, commitment includes an emotional acknowledgment of a we, in that we are with each other and choose to be part of a couple. And on a practical level, it means the possibility of planning for a future—even if it’s […]
Are You Ready to Stop Being a Victim?
A victim, according to Webster’s dictionary, is a person who has been attacked, injured, robbed, killed, cheated or fooled by someone else, or harmed by an unpleasant event. Everyone gets attacked, injured, cheated, fooled and harmed during their life, if not physically then emotionally. And everyone gets harmed by unpleasant events. We’re all victims, in […]
Are You On Your Own Side? How to Take Good Care of Yourself From the Inside Out
Have you ever wondered why we’re so bad at self-care, why taking care of ourselves is so difficult for us human beings, and not simply inborn? Every week, another book comes out on how to take better care of ourselves. So why are we not getting it? For one thing, our self-care approach in this culture is […]
Are You Friends With Yourself?
Self-Care is an Inside Job Have you ever wondered why we’re so bad at self-care, why taking care of ourselves is so difficult for us human beings, and not simply inborn? Every week, another book comes out on how to take better care of ourselves. So why are we not getting it? For one thing, our self-care […]
How to Be Kind to Ourselves Through the Holiday Season
The holidays arrive each year with an abundance of expectations. We’re expected to be having fun and feeling joy, to be surrounded by loved ones and a warm, connected family to which we effortlessly belong. We’re expected to be busy and enjoying all sorts of exciting and festive activities, doing special holiday things. In short, we’re expected […]
Meditation for Peace
Nancy Colier leads us on a journey from the head into the body, from the noise and chaos of mind into the stillness that’s always here, now, awaiting our attention. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/id1073710322
Covey Club with Lesley Jane Seymour: How to Find Quiet in the Noisy Season
Finding silence and peace in the noise and chaos of the holiday season. Nancy Colier and Lesley Jane Seymour sharing coffee and conversation. vimeo.com/247705768
Meditation for Peace
Nancy Colier leads us on a journey from the head into the body, from the noise and chaos of mind into the silence and peace always awaiting us, here, in the body, if we’re willing to bring our attention to it. Meditation for Peace: https://itunes.apple.com/gh/podcast/nancy-colier/id1073710322?mt=2
When We Need an Apology But Are Never Going to Get One
Why is it so hard for some people to say “I’m sorry”? It’s remarkable how difficult these two simple words can be to say out loud. I’ve been gifted with my share of never-sorry people over the years. I say gifted, because not getting the “I’m sorry” I’ve craved and (I thought) deserved has forced me to investigate the psychology of apologies, as well […]
Can a Relationship Recover From Resentment?
As a relationship-oriented therapist, I am often asked “What’s the biggest problem couples face?” The easy answers are money and sex, but neither would be exactly true or at least not what has walked into my office or my life. The most common problem I see in intimate partnerships is what I call, t Paula […]