A victim, according to Webster’s dictionary, is a person who has been attacked, injured, robbed, killed, cheated or fooled by someone else, or harmed by an unpleasant event. Everyone gets attacked, injured, cheated, fooled and harmed during their life, if not physically then emotionally. And everyone gets harmed by unpleasant events. We’re all victims, in moments, to life’s challenges and difficulties—life’s lifeness.
It’s psychologically healthy to acknowledge the suffering and feelings of powerlessness that accompany such experiences.
And yet, there are those people who feel like victims all the time, regardless of the circumstances. Those with victim mentality are always being victimized in their own mind. They maintain a consistent victim identity and see life, perpetually, through victim-tinted glasses.
We all know people who seem to be constantly commenting on some injustice done to them, how others are denying them what they need, want, and deserve, controlling them against their will, making them do what they don’t want to do—how life is against them and the universe is designed to punish them, personally. Or perhaps, you yourself are someone who experiences life this way?
To always feel like a victim of life, or, to love someone who’s always convinced they’re the victim of life—neither is easy and both are painful.
To illustrate some of the most common forms of victim mentality, here are three cases in point. Read more…