Tag Archives: love

Mindful Speech: Using Your Words to Help Not Harm

When we want our kids to express themselves in ways other than tantrumming or throwing peas at the dog, we say “Use your words.”  But I often wonder, do adults really know how to use our words skillfully, in ways that … Continue reading

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Choosing Love Over Fear: Responding From Love Not Reacting From Fear

Reject fear, choose love. This is a popular refrain and wonderful advice. Many believe that there are only two primal emotions in the human being, love and fear, and that we cannot feel both at once. And, that in the same way that light removes darkness, … Continue reading

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The One Decision That Will Radically Improve Your Family Life

If you’re a mom then I’m certain you know the experience of telling your child to do something and getting no response, and then telling your child to do it again and getting no response, and then telling your child … Continue reading

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How Long Should I Wait For My Partner to Commit?

Commitment is a topic that brings a lot of couples into therapy. While it has a single definition, it holds infinite meanings. For many women and men, commitment includes an emotional acknowledgment of a we, in that we are with each other and … Continue reading

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The Key to Intimacy is Radical Listening

The key to deep intimacy in relationship is listening, but listening in a radically new way. Most of us, when listening, are doing one of two things and sometimes both.  First, we are scanning for danger: is there something that … Continue reading

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