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Using the need to be right to change and grow. As I discussed in the first part of this series, we’re raised to believe there’s one reality, one right version of what is, while in
Telling ourselves about our life is not the same as living it. I was on a jeep tour through the desert dunes in a foreign land. There were four of us in the vehicle. It
Understanding why you need to be right is the beginning of letting it go. This is the first post in a series. Every week, couples want me to play referee in their relationships. Their hope
Source: Igor Omilaev/Unsplash This part 2 of a two-part post. Click here to read part 1. Have you ever noticed that you’re caught in a thought loop, ruminating on something you’ve ruminated on a thousand times
Most people have some negative self-story lurking in the shadows of their consciousness, something they believe or fear is true about themselves—something bad. Usually, these negative self-stories start in childhood, when we were told this or that about ourselves by a parent,
My daughter returned from a birthday party this past weekend carrying a bag monogrammed with the party girl’s name, and inside it, a pair of pajama shorts, pajama pants, sweatpants, two T-shirts, one zip-up sweatshirt,
Healing the split between your mind and body is the way home to yourself. So many women come to see me with the same complaint; they feel disconnected and disenchanted, cut off from something authentic
I was recently offered a “great” professional opportunity. A gig that just about anyone in my field would want. There was one problem, however: I didn’t want it. When I was originally offered the position I said
Eavesdropping on public transportation is one of my favorite pastimes. It’s also a great way to study our culture. I recently overheard two 20-something women talk about their summer plans. And, as luck would have
1. Can you share about your childhood experiences that have influenced your career path and shaped who you are today? I grew up in an intellectual family in New York City; the mind was the
Pamela’s 14-year-old daughter is leaving for camp in two weeks. Pamela decided not to plan anything specific for the time, figuring her daughter could arrange dates with her friends and find things to do. Pamela
I can remember the first time I did it. The “it” in this case was to say no to a dinner invitation I did not want to attend, but felt I should attend. But what made this no so momentous for
One of my favorite stories is of a wild gazelle who, early in her life, smells a scent so magnificent that she spends her entire life searching for it, driven by the longing to re-experience its
Women feel both outraged and powerless in response to the war being waged on our bodies, the coup for control over us. Women’s power is yet again being taken (or attempted to be taken). While
A teenager recently told me she experienced “trauma” because a friend gave her a dirty look. I’ve heard other young people use the word “trauma” to describe not being invited to a party or a parent yelling