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In the last installment of this series on guilt, I discussed the false and conditioned belief that we are guilty if someone else is uncomfortable or disappointed. I suggested a reframe, namely, to see guilt as
In part one of this series, I described an experience in which my daughter had accomplished something really big, and how I’d done a thousand and one things to support and celebrate her and honor
Women often feel guilty about… well, everything. From the moment we’re born, we learn how to feel guilty—not good enough. We’re guilty if anyone else is not happy, which means we’ve failed at our primary
How can we be well in a world that feels so desperately unwell? These days, I’m asked this question all the time. Where do we find ground in a world that seems to be on
Learn the easiest way to be a really good friend. Loneliness is our society’s biggest mental health challenge; it’s an epidemic. People across every age group describe feeling disconnected and alone, missing a sense of community
How to open the door to what you really want Women have a complicated relationship with the word and feeling of “want.” For so many women, it’s hard to allow “wanting” a seat at our
I talked with three moms this week, each of whom has a child graduating, two from college and one from high school. Each described themselves as cracking up from the demands of properly celebrating their graduates. While
The dynamics and consequences of relationships based on self-sacrifice. Source: Karolina Grabowska/Unsplash Has someone ever told you that they did something that they didn’t want to do, something that prevented them from getting what they needed, but
What’s the story you’re telling yourself inside your head—the story of your life, and about yourself? Have you ever noticed that your mind is busy creating a narrative version of your life from the moment
The other day I found myself melting down about what was happening in our country and our world. I had woken up from a series of nightmares that left me feeling afraid, powerless, and out
Do you ever catch yourself thinking in the middle of the night, ruminating about situations that are unresolved or unclear and, basically, not how you’d like them to be? We do this kind of ruminating
Because the world seems scary, doesn’t mean we have to live in fear. We’re living in anxious times. Many people are concerned and frightened about what’s happening in our country and the world, not to
Using the need to be right to change and grow. As I discussed in the first part of this series, we’re raised to believe there’s one reality, one right version of what is, while in
Telling ourselves about our life is not the same as living it. I was on a jeep tour through the desert dunes in a foreign land. There were four of us in the vehicle. It
Understanding why you need to be right is the beginning of letting it go. This is the first post in a series. Every week, couples want me to play referee in their relationships. Their hope