Commitment is a topic that brings a lot of couples into therapy. While it has a single definition, it holds infinite meanings.
For many people, commitment includes an emotional acknowledgment of a we, in that we are with each other and choosing to be part of the couple.
And on a practical level, the possibility then of planning for a future, even if it is just the weekend. A sense of continuity. For others, commitment is about living together or getting married and sharing a home life. And for still others, it is a child that expresses the commitment desired. But wherever we fall on the spectrum, when our partner cannot provide the commitment we want and need, we are left to live in a difficult limbo, in something we want, but that we want more of and from, and don’t know if we’ll ever get.
How do we ever know when to stay or leave?