Why It’s So Exhausting to Be the One Everyone Counts On
Are you tired of being the one everyone counts on, who can do it all, seemingly without needing anything for yourself? Are you exhausted from giving to everyone and everything? Here, in Part 3 of this series, I offer some steps you can take to break the over-giving habit and reclaim your vitality. In short, how […]
Spiritual Beings on a Human Journey: Remembering Our Stardust
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Most of us have heard these words from the French philosopher, Pierre Teilhard de Chardin. And for most of us, there is something about this idea that resonates at a very primordial level. Something in us knows, deep […]
Curiosity: The Greatest Gift We Can Give Our Partners
When we think of virtues, we usually think of the classics: wisdom, compassion, humility, patience, fortitude, courage, kindness, gratitude, and the like. But there are a number of underrated, less-discussed virtues that are vitally important in creating a good life. One that rarely makes the top-ten lists is curiosity. When it comes to virtues, curiosity gets short […]
When Over-Giving Is Depleting You: How to Stop (Part 4)
Here, I will lay out some of the deeper beliefs at the root of over-giving, and what is really an unwillingness to give to yourself in the same way you give to other people. For most over-givers, underneath it all, there’s a reluctance to admit the un-admittable, namely, that you’re human and not, as you […]
Are You Exhausted From Being the One Everyone Can Count On? (Part 3)
Are you tired of being the one everyone counts on, who can do it all, seemingly without needing anything for yourself? Are you exhausted from giving to everyone and everything? Here, in Part 3 of this series, I offer some steps you can take to break the over-giving habit and reclaim your vitality. In short, how […]
Overwhelmed and Exhausted? How to Stop Giving Too Much (Part 2)
In Part 1 of this series, I addressed reasons you might be over-giving, taking care of too many people and too many things—to the point of exhaustion. In this next part, I want to suggest a path toward recovery (from the over-giving habit), and ways to take charge of your own time and energy. How do you […]
When We Need An Apology But Are Never Going to Get One
Why is it so hard for some people to say “I’m sorry”? It’s remarkable how difficult these two simple words can be to say out loud. I’ve been gifted with my share of never-sorry people over the years. I say gifted, because not getting the “I’m sorry” I’ve craved and (I thought) deserved has forced me to investigate the psychology […]
When You’re In Relationship With a Blamer
Our greatest challenges are our greatest teachers, and they often manifest in the form of family—at least, that’s been my experience. I have taken on a practice and habit of bowing to my hardest or most painful situations, even as I struggle with and loathe them. I know that if I can approach my greatest […]
What to Do About the People Who Blame You For Everything
My recent post, “When You’re in Relationship With a Blamer” When You’re In A Relationship With a Blamer inspired overwhelming feedback, both from people who feel they receive blame and those who think they’re blamers. (Encouragingly, many blamers expressed the desire to change their blaming habits.) The questions I raised included: The first thing to […]
When It’s Time to Let Go of Control and Surrender
Surrender is at the heart of all spiritual paths; no practice is more powerful or profound. But what does it mean to surrender? And what does it not mean? Surrender is too often misunderstood, boiled down to a few affirmations about “letting go,” and then misused as a self-help instruction. But in our misunderstanding, in trying to do surrender […]