Putting the Brakes on Overthinking
November 1, 2021
I talk and write a lot about why we overthink and ruminate so much, and keep thinking about all the worst parts of our lives, all the things that bring us pain. At the most
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When COVID Threatens to Break Up Your Relationship
October 21, 2021
The pandemic has massively disrupted normal life, creating conflict and suffering in innumerable ways. This much we know. But what I didn’t know, or expect, was how much disruption and the particular kind of conflict
How to Relax When You Don’t Have the Answers
October 20, 2021
The first time it was suggested to me that I stop trying to think up a solution to the situation I was trying desperately to solve, to figure it all out, it sounded a lovely
Has the Pandemic Changed Your Desire to Socialize?
October 4, 2021
So much in our lives has changed over the last 18 months. The way we work, socialize, eat, exercise, entertain ourselves, travel, and everything else, all has been altered. But more than just what we do
Harmony in Relationship Does Not Require Agreement
October 4, 2021
James and Anna came to see me because of a big fight they were embroiled in. The issue was money, which I learned they had been arguing about for years, with no resolution. However, within
Do You Have the Courage to Be a Good Friend?
August 22, 2021
Have you ever told a friend about a deeply upsetting experience and then had the friend tell you all the reasons why that experience won’t be upsetting at some point in the future? Have you ever
How We, as Women, Give Away Our Power
August 22, 2021
Gwen was a working comedian when I first met her. She wasn’t famous yet, but it seemed that she was on her way there. I had never met an artist who pushed herself so hard.
Why We Can’t Stop Thinking About the Same Problems
April 29, 2021
Have you ever noticed how frequently your mind returns to problems and situations that cause you pain, and insists on rehashing what’s wrong? It’s a strange phenomenon really, our addiction to thinking about problems. Even
You Go, Girl: Growing Up On Cotton Candy Cliches
March 13, 2021
My babysitter gave my 10-year-old daughter a scrapbook. The sparkly pink binder was filled with adorable photos of the two of them eating ice cream, drinking smoothies, ice skating, wearing rainbow wigs, dancing to Tik
What If We Acted a Little Kinder Than We Felt, or Thought?
February 20, 2021
A feeling of joy and relief has arrived for many people in this country. After four years of going to bed with our stomachs in knots, hearts heavy and brains on fire, trying to make
Are You A People-Pleaser at Your Own Expense?
February 11, 2021
Petra was furious when she woke up in the morning—furious at herself. The previous evening, she had met up with an old friend visiting from out of town. He was going through a rough divorce and needed
Surviving 2020, One Panic Attack at a Time
February 11, 2021
Wow, 2020! Our year of anxiety. Many of us are walking around with a sense of trepidation, if not abject fear, in our bellies, and brains. Sometimes it feels like there’s so much to be
Are You Having a Conversation or Seeking Validation?
February 11, 2021
Basic truth: When conversing with other human beings, most of us are inclined to offer an uh-huh, hmmm or head nod every now and again, to let the other person know we’re hearing them and receiving their information. These gestures
Must We Always Be Striving For A Better Life?
November 15, 2020
Switching from the five-year plan to the right now plan… The workshop started with a simple question: What do you want? That question was followed shortly with What is your deepest intention? And then, What do you want to create
Why It’s So Hard to Be (Fully) Honest With Your Partner
November 14, 2020
Jill and her husband had attended a friend’s party, and Jill came home upset. Her husband’s friendliness—and what looked like flirtation—with another woman kept her awake all night, feeling hurt, angry, and threatened. She knew her